lesson 4 Anger
A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control （Proverbs 29:11）。
愚 妄 人 怒 气 全 发 ; 智 慧 人 忍 气 含 怒 . （箴言29:11）
Meet Tom 汤姆的故事
Tom was an accountant for the Sheriffs dept. He had a wife, daughter, and two sons. Like so many in this country, Tom’s family was very active in the church for many, many years until everything changed – Tom was asked to lead his Christian congregation through the long, tedious process of building a church. It’s a job that Tom cheerfully accepted from his congregation, but a job that would forever change his life and his family’s life, too. By the time the church had completed its building project, they had successfully driven Tom and many other families away from the house of God that they had hoped would bring people closer to God!
Many people hated the design, and the result was that Tom became their scapegoat. Tom never would step foot inside of that church ever again, neither would his family. Unfortunately, the matter was much worse than that. Tom would spend the next 30 years of his life, pouting and lamenting about how poorly he was treated in a Christian church. Tom’s wife would soon join another Christian church, as would the children, but Tom would not have anything to do with church for a long time, 30 years to be exact!
Tom’s wife prayed for those 30 years that her husband’s anger might be healed and that he would come back to the church and seek God’s love and mercy from Word and sacrament as they once did as a family.
After 30 years, her prayer was answered. Tom’s wife was diagnosed with terminal cancer that would eventually take her life. While she was in the midst of dying she expressed to her husband her one and only dying wish. Can you guess what her wish was? Her one hope was that her husband would put aside his anger and return to the Lord’s house. Shortly before she died, her prayer was answered.
For the next 5 years （Tom died at 84）， Tom did not miss a week at church. Every other Friday, Tom took me out for Catfish and the two of us would just talk, mostly about his wife and children, but also we would talk about the lost years of his life that he very much regretted.
The picture of the church up above became the source of great anger and hostility amongst people who profess to be known by the whole world because of their “love” for each other. Anger is one of those root sins, like greed, that can lead to many other great sins in a person’s life. Today, we will look closer at how we can counsel others who might be stuck like Tom in the sin of their own anger. May God bless our study.
Apply Tom’s situation with the following passages from the Bible…
Psalm 37:8 Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret-it leads only to evil
当 止 住 怒 气 , 离 弃 忿 怒 ; 不 要 心 怀 不 平 , 以 致 作 恶 .
How had Tom’s anger led to evil?
Proverbs 12:18 Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
箴言12:18说 话 浮 躁 的 , 如 刀 刺 人 ; 智 慧 人 的 舌 头 却 为 医 人 的 良 药 .
How had the “reckless words” of some of the church members at Tom’s church “pierced like a sword?”
汤姆教会成员的鲁莽的话为什么“如 刀 刺 人”?
1 Corinthians 4:12 We work hard with our own hands. When we are cursed, we bless; when we are persecuted, we endure it.
哥林多前书4:12 并 且 劳 苦 , 亲 手 做 工 . 被 人 咒 骂 , 我 们 就 祝 福 ; 被 人 逼 迫 , 我 们 就 忍 受 ;
What advice from Paul might we give a church member who might be filled with anger at another member or even at their pastor?
Application: Christians ought to look at strife in the congregation as an opportunity to put Christ-like love on display, as we are called by Jesus to love each other deeply. This command must reach far beyond those who love us back, but must also include those who aren’t being very kind to us.
应用：基督徒应该视教会中的冲突为彰显基督般的爱的机会，因为我们 被耶稣呼召彼此相爱。这一诫命的界限应该超越不仅去爱 那些回报我们爱的人，而且应该包括那些现在对我们并不友善的人。
Problems can be opportunities for growth in faith 困难可以成为信心成长的机会
The church, that is the body of believers, is merely an extension of the home. And just like every home has dissension and anger in it, so too, every church experiences hard feelings and sometimes anger for doing things differently than we might do them. Consider our Lord’s advice, however, before we jump to conclusions about another person’s actions or inactions…
Matthew 7:3-5 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
马太7:3-5为 甚 麽 看 见 你 弟 兄 眼 中 有 刺 , 却 不 想 自 己 眼 中 有 梁 木 呢 ? 4你 自 己 眼 中 有 梁 木 , 怎 能 对 你 弟 兄 说 : 容 我 去 掉 你 眼 中 的 刺 呢 ? 5你 这 假 冒 为 善 的 人 ! 先 去 掉 自 己 眼 中 的 梁 木 , 然 後 才 能 看 得 清 楚 , 去 掉 你 弟 兄 眼 中 的 刺 .
Churches rarely disagree on doctrine, but often disagree on what might be considered matters of indifference or what the church calls adiaphora – something that is neither commanded nor forbidden by God. When dealing with non-doctrinal issues in the church, what advice does Jesus give to us as we deal with our brothers and sisters in the Lord?
Romans 5:3-4 Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.
罗马书5:3-4 不 但 如 此 , 就 是 在 患 难 中 也 是 欢 欢 喜 喜 的 ; 因 为 知 道 患 难 生 忍 耐 , 4忍 耐 生 老 练 , 老 练 生 盼 望 ; 5盼 望 不 至 於 羞 耻 , 因 为 所 赐 给 我 们 的 圣 灵 将 神 的 爱 浇 灌 在 我 们 心 里 .
How will a mature Christian look at strife in his life, whether it comes to him/her at work, at home or even in his home church?
2 Corinthians 12:10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
哥林多后书12:10我 为 基 督 的 缘 故 , 就 以 软 弱 、 凌 辱 、 急 难 、 逼 迫 、 困 苦 为 可 喜 乐 的 ; 因 我 甚 麽 时 候 软 弱 , 甚 麽 时 候 就 刚 强 了 .
When Paul encountered anger and resentment, as he did from some of the Christians in Corinth who were calling to question his apostolic authority, how did he handle the situation?
Jesus loved his enemies 耶稣爱仇敌
Luke 13:34 O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, but you were not willing!
路加13:34耶 路 撒 冷 阿 ! 耶 路 撒 冷 阿 ! 你 常 杀 害 先 知 , 又 用 石 头 打 死 那 奉 差 遣 到 你 这 里 来 的 人 . 我 多 次 愿 意 聚 集 你 的 儿 女 , 好 像 母 鸡 把 小 鸡 聚 集 在 翅 膀 底 下 , 只 是 你 们 不 愿 意 .
Luke 6:27,28 But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.
路加6:27,28只 是 我 告 诉 你 们 这 听 道 的 人 , 你 们 的 仇 敌 , 要 爱 他 ! 恨 你 们 的 , 要 待 他 好 ! 28咒 诅 你 们 的 , 要 为 他 祝 福 ! 凌 辱 你 们 的 , 要 为 他 祷 告 !
Application: A pastor or Christian leader of Jesus’ church may be justifiably angry at the behavior of the sheep, however, it must not affect the love that he has for those sheep to corral them back into the fold where they might be fed with God’s Word and sacrament once again
2 Timothy 2:24 And the Lord’s servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.
提摩太后书2:24然 而 主 的 仆 人 不 可 争 竞 , 只 要 温 温 和 和 的 待 众 人 , 善 於 教 导 , 存 心 忍 耐。
Application: A Christian leader in God’s house, might rightfully be considered a diplomat or mediator. It’s important that he/she doesn’t become the cause of dissension in a church, but rather a good resource to put out potential fires, continually reminding God’s sheep to go back to the cross and remember that our Savior’s love compels us to express love for each other even when we might disagree.
Ephesians 4:29-32 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
以弗所书4:29-32污 秽 的 言 语 一 句 不 可 出 口 , 只 要 随 事 说 造 就 人 的 好 话 , 叫 听 见 的 人 得 益 处 . 30不 要 叫 神 的 圣 灵 担 忧 ; 你 们 原 是 受 了 他 的 印 记 , 等 候 得 赎 的 日 子 来 到 . 31一 切 苦 毒 、 恼 恨 、 忿 怒 、 嚷 闹 、 毁 谤 , 并 一 切 的 恶 毒 （ 或 作 : 阴 毒 ） , 都 当 从 你 们 中 间 除 掉 ; 32并 要 以 恩 慈 相 待 , 存 怜 悯 的 心 , 彼 此 饶 恕 , 正 如 神 在 基 督 里 饶 恕 了 你 们 一 样 .
Application: If we aren’t building up our brothers and sisters in Christ, then it can be rightly said that we’re probably tearing them down. When Christians congregate with each other, whether it be weekly, monthly or whenever, it’s important we see each opportunity to encourage each other in our faith.
Evaluate your love for your enemies 评估你对仇敌的爱
（put a value of 1-5 in the blank below, with 1 meaning ”I need a lot of improvement“ and 5 meaning ”I do a very good job of this“）
—- I am patient
—- I am kind
—- I do not envy
—- I do not boast
—- I am not proud
—- I am not rude
—- I am not self-seeking
—- I am not easily angered
—- I keep no record of wrongs
—- I do not delight in evil
—- I rejoice with the truth
—- I always protect
—- I always trust
—- I always hope
—- I always persevere
—- My love never fails
Add up your total score ——
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails
If your answers total 75-80 – You’re lying
If your answers total 60-75 – You’re slightly dishonest
If your answers are less than 50 – Then you are a work in progress, like every other Christian.
Read the following…
2 Timothy 3:16,17 All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, 17 so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.
提摩太后书3:16,17圣 经 都 是 神 所 默 示 的 （ 或 作 : 凡 神 所 默 示 的 圣 经 ） , 於 教 训 、 督 责 、 使 人 归 正 、 教 导 人 学 义 都 是 有 益 的 , 17叫 属 神 的 人 得 以 完 全 , 预 备 行 各 样 的 善 事 .
What four uses do the Scriptures have for our lives:
For what purpose do these uses of Scripture serve for the Christian’s life?
John 14:27 Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
约翰14:27我 留 下 平 安 给 你 们 ; 我 将 我 的 平 安 赐 给 你 们 . 我 所 赐 的 , 不 像 世 人 所 赐 的 . 你 们 心 里 不 要 忧 愁 , 也 不 要 胆 怯
Matthew 11:28-30 ”Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.“
马太11:28-30”凡 劳 苦 担 重 担 的 人 可 以 到 我 这 里 来 , 我 就 使 你 们 得 安 息 . 29我 心 里 柔 和 谦 卑 , 你 们 当 负 我 的 轭 , 学 我 的 样 式 ; 这 样 , 你 们 心 里 就 必 得 享 安 息 . 30因 为 我 的 轭 是 容 易 的 , 我 的 担 子 是 轻 省 的 .“
Application: Only Jesus can replace the anger of a human heart with a peace that is beyond our understanding. And Jesus will set our hearts at peace as we come to his Word seeking rest from the world around us.
Righteous Anger 正义的愤怒
As a young 11 year old boy, Danny was molested by his cousin repeatedly. When Danny grew up, he acted out sexually with other men, many other men…and the result was that he contracted HIV and eventually AIDS from his promiscuous lifestyle. Instead of channeling is anger properly, Danny, ”acted“ on his anger impulsively and the result was fatal.
Danny was a baptized child of Jesus and AIDS forced him to deal with what might be considered a ”Righteous anger.“ But what do the following passages teach us regarding Danny’s anger…
Galatians 5:19-20 The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions.
加拉太书5:19-20 情 欲 的 事 都 是 显 而 易 见 的 , 就 如 奸 淫 、 污 秽 、 邪 荡 、 20拜 偶 像 、 邪 术 、 仇 恨 、 争 竞 、 忌 恨 、 恼 怒 、 结 党 、 纷 争 、 异 端 .
Anger is part of the ————————-
Romans 12:21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
罗马书12:21你 不 可 为 恶 所 胜 , 反 要 以 善 胜 恶 .
To overcome the evil done unto Danny, it’s important for him to…
It’s advisable in human relationships that we avoid words like…
§ ”Always“ and ”never“
§ ”If you loved me …“
§ ”Maybe we should get a divorce.“
§ ”You’re just like your father （or mother）。“
Meet Corrie ten Boom Corrie ten Boom的故事
Corrie ten Boom was a former prisoner in a Nazi concentration camp. She describes the feelings she had as she met face-to-face one of the former guards of the camp.
Corrie ten Boom曾是纳粹集中营的犯人。她描述了当她与集中营的一个卫兵面对面见面时的感受。
”It was in a church in Munich that I saw him, a balding heavy-set man in a gray overcoat, a brown felt hat clutched between his hands. People were filing out of the basement room where I had just spoken, moving along the rows of wooden chairs to the door at the rear. It was 1947, and I had come from Holland to defeated Germany with the message that God forgives.
It was the truth they needed most to hear in that bitter, bombed-out land, and I gave them my favorite mental picture. Maybe because the sea is never far from a Hollander’s mind, I liked to think that that’s where forgiven sins were thrown. ‘When we confess our sins,’ I said, ‘God casts them into the deepest ocean, gone forever.’
The solemn faces stared back at me, not quite daring to believe. There were never questions after talks in Germany in 1947. People stood up in silence, in silence collected their wraps, and in silence left the room.
And that’s when I saw him, working his way forward against the others. One moment I saw the overcoat and the brown hat; the next, a blue uniform and a visored cap with its skull and crossbones. It came back with a rush: the huge room with its harsh overhead lights, the pathetic pile of dresses and shoes in the center of the floor, the shame of walking naked past this man. I could see my sister’s frail form ahead of me, ribs sharp beneath the parchment skin. Betsie, how thin you were!
Betsie and I had been arrested for concealing Jews in our home during the Nazi occupation of Holland; this man had been a guard at Ravensbruck concentration camp where we were sent.
Now he was in front of me, hand thrust out: ‘A fine message, Fraulein! How good it is to know that, as you say, all our sins are at the bottom of the sea!’
And I, who had spoken so glibly of forgiveness, fumbled in my pocketbook rather than take that hand. He would not remember me, of course – how could he remember one prisoner among those thousands of women?
But I remembered him and the leather crop swinging from his belt. It was the first time since my release that I had been face to face with one of my captors and my blood seemed to freeze.
‘You mentioned Ravensbruck in your talk,’ he was saying. ‘I was a guard in there.’ No, he did not remember me.
‘But since that time,’ he went on, ‘I have become a Christian. I know that God has forgiven me for the cruel things I did there, but I would like to hear it from your lips as well. Fraulein’ – again the hand came out – ‘will you forgive me?’
And I stood there – I whose sins had every day to be forgiven – and could not. Betsie had died in that place – could he erase her slow terrible death simply for the asking?
From the perspective of Corrie ten Boom, how can you relate to her feelings on perhaps a much smaller scale （maybe not）？
根据Corrie ten Boom的观点，你怎样对她的感受产生共鸣，也许只是一小点共鸣而已（也许没有）？
From the perspective of the guard, how can you relate with his need to hear it again from her lips that he was forgiven for his actions?
What was Corrie ten Boom compelled to do as a Christian? （Read the following）
作为一个基督徒，Corrie ten Boom 有责任做什么？（阅读以下经文）
Matthew 5:21-24 You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, “Do not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.” But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment … first go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.
Romans 12:17-21 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
17不 要 以 恶 报 恶 ; 众 人 以 为 美 的 事 要 留 心 去 做 . 18若 是 能 行 , 总 要 尽 力 与 众 人 和 睦 . 19亲 爱 的 弟 兄 , 不 要 自 己 伸 冤 , 宁 可 让 步 , 听 凭 主 怒 （ 或 作 : 让 人 发 怒 ） ; 因 为 经 上 记 着 : 主 说 : 伸 冤 在 我 ; 我 必 报 应 . 20所 以 , 你 的 仇 敌 若 饿 了 , 就 给 他 吃 , 若 渴 了 , 就 给 他 喝 ; 因 为 你 这 样 行 就 是 把 炭 火 堆 在 他 的 头 上 . 21你 不 可 为 恶 所 胜 , 反 要 以 善 胜 恶 .
1 John 2:9-10 Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates his brother is still in the darkness. Whoever loves his brother lives in the light, and there is nothing in him to make him stumble.
约翰一书2:9-10人 若 说 自 己 在 光 明 中 , 却 恨 他 的 弟 兄 , 他 到 如 今 还 是 在 黑 暗 里 . 10爱 弟 兄 的 , 就 是 住 在 光 明 中 , 在 他 并 没 有 绊 跌 的 缘 由 .
How might Corrie’s decision to forgive or not to forgive this guard, affect her relationship with…
c. The former guard?
Let’s see how Corrie responded:
“It could not have been many seconds that he stood there, hand held out, but to me it seemed hours as I wrestled with the most difficult thing I had ever had to do.
For I had to do it – I knew that. The message that God forgives also means that if we are willing to accept his forgiveness for our grievous sins, then we also will forgive our debtors on behalf of Christ. For Jesus himself says, ‘If you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your heavenly Father forgive your trespasses.’
I knew it not only as a commandment of God, but as a daily experience. Since the end of the war I had had a home in Holland for victims of Nazi brutality. Those who were able to forgive their former enemies were able also to return to the outside world and rebuild their lives, no matter what the physical scars. Those who nursed bitterness remained invalids. It was as simple and as horrible as that.
And still I stood there with the coldness clutching my heart. But forgiveness is not an emotion – I knew that too. Forgiveness is an act of the will, and the will can function regardless of the temperature of the heart. ‘Jesus, help me!’ I prayed silently. ‘I can lift my hand. I can do that much. You supply the feeling.’
And so woodenly, mechanically, I thrust my hand into the one stretched out to me. And as I did, an incredible thing took place. The current started in my shoulder, raced down my arm, sprang into our joined hands. And then this healing warmth seemed to flood my whole being, bringing tears to my eyes. ‘I forgive you, brother!’ I cried. ‘With all my heart!’
我笨拙，机械地把手伸给这个向我伸手的人。我这么做时，不可思议的事发生了。一股电流从我的肩膀开始，穿过手臂，涌进我们握在一起的手中。然后神医治的暖流淹没我整个人，泪水夺眶而出。“我宽恕你了，弟兄”我喊道。 “ 全身心的宽恕！”
For a long moment we grasped each other’s hands, the former guard and the former prisoner. I had never known God’s love so intensely as I did then.
What did Corrie ten Boom give up, when she chose to forgive the former guard?
当Corrie ten Boom 选择宽恕那个卫兵时，她放弃了什么？
Consider the following things that often hang us up from forgiving and explain how Corrie set those aside:
Application: God’s forgiveness can seem unfair sometimes, especially when you consider the thief on the cross, and the parable of the talents. Jesus paid the man who worked only one hour the same amount of talents as the man who labored all day and the one who worked all day felt a bit ripped off. I think we are inclined to feel that same way as workers in God’s house at times. That’s why it’s so important to look at life as one big opportunity for each of us to imitate, in a small way, the love our Savior showed us when he died for sinners like us.
应用：神的宽恕有时看起来不公平，尤其当你想到十字架上的贼和 才干的比喻时。耶稣付给只做一个小时活的人和干了一天活的人同样的报酬 .干了一天活的人感到被剥削了。 我想我们为神做工有时有同样的感觉。这就是为什么很重要的一点是要把生命看做我们能以微小的方式来效仿我们救主的爱，因他为我们这些罪人而死。
1 Peter 3:9 Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.
彼得前书3:9不 以 恶 报 恶 , 以 辱 骂 还 辱 骂 , 倒 要 祝 福 ; 因 你 们 是 为 此 蒙 召 , 好 叫 你 们 承 受 福 气 .