恩典国际圣经学院

第九课 家庭暴力
Lesson 9 Domestic violence

The Facts on Domestic Violence

家庭暴力调查

On average more than three women a day are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in the United States. In 2005, 1,181 women were murdered by an intimate partner.

在美国平均每天超过三位女性被他们的丈夫或男友谋杀。2005年,1181位女性被亲密的伴侣谋杀。

In 2008, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention published data collected in 2005 that finds that women experience two million injuries from intimate partner violence each year.

2008年,疾病控制预防中心公布2005年收集的数据表明每年女性遭到200万起来自亲密伴侣的暴力伤害。

Violence and Children

暴力与儿童

15.5 million children in the United States live in families in which partner violence occurred at least once in the past year, and seven million children live in families in which severe partner violence occurred. In 2008, 16,458 children were living in a domestic violence shelter or transitional housing facility.

在过去一年里,1550万美国儿童生活在至少发生一次家庭暴力的家庭,7百万儿童生活在发生严重家庭暴力的家庭。2008年,16458位儿童生活在家庭暴力庇护所或过渡性住所。

Domestic Violence in China

中国的家庭暴力

One-third of Chinese households cope with domestic abuse, both physical and psychological, according to a national survey by the All-China Women’s Federation (ACWF), the largest women’s non-government organization in China.

根据全中国妇联(ACWF),中国最大的妇女非政府机构的全国调查显示,有三分之一的中国家庭面临解决身体上或心理上的家庭虐待问题。

The study found that the violence mostly takes place in rural areas, in young families and in households with lower educational levels. Men commit 90 percent of the violent acts, the study found.

调查发现家庭暴力大部分发生在农村地区,在年轻的家庭和教育水平低下的家庭。调查发现90%的暴力行为为男性所为。

Another study found that domestic abuse was so prevalent that both men and women identified it as a part of normal family life. Just 5 percent of respondents said their marriage was unhappy.

另一研究发现家庭虐待如此普遍以致男性和女性把它看做正常家庭生活的一部分。只有5%的被访者说他们的婚姻不幸福。

Prevalence of Violence Globally

暴力倾向遍及全球

The United Nations Development Fund for Women estimates that at least one of every three women globally will be beaten, raped or otherwise abused during her lifetime. In most cases, the abuser is a member of her own family.

联合国妇女基金发展部门估计全球每三位女性中至少有一位在一生中被殴打,强奸或其他虐待。多数情况下,施虐者是她的家庭成员。

The Root Cause of Domestic Violence 家庭暴力的根源

Genesis 3:16-19 创世纪3:16-19

To the woman he said, “I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” 17 To Adam he said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat of it,’ ”Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat of it all the days of your life. 18 It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. 19 By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return.“

又 对 女 人 说 : 我 必 多 多 加 增 你 怀 胎 的 苦 楚 ; 你 生 产 儿 女 必 多 受 苦 楚 . 你 必 恋 慕 你 丈 夫 ; 你 丈 夫 必 管 辖 你 .17又 对 亚 当 说 : 你 既 听 从 妻 子 的 话 , 吃 了 我 所 吩 咐 你 不 可 吃 的 那 树 上 的 果 子 , 地 必 为 你 的 缘 故 受 咒 诅 ; 你 必 终 身 劳 苦 才 能 从 地 里 得 吃 的 . 18地 必 给 你 长 出 荆 棘 和 蒺 藜 来 ; 你 也 要 吃 田 间 的 菜 蔬 . 19你 必 汗 流 满 面 才 得 糊 口 , 直 到 你 归 了 土 , 因 为 你 是 从 土 而 出 的 . 你 本 是 尘 土 , 仍 要 归 於 尘 土 .

  1. What curse had Adam and Eve brought upon themselves by disobeying God’s command?

    亚当和夏娃不服从神的命令给他们自己带来什么咒诅?

  2. Who was affected by the actions of Adam and Eve?

    谁受到亚当和夏娃的行为的影响?

    Romans 5:12 Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, and in this way death came to all men, because all sinned.

    罗马书5:12这 就 如 罪 是 从 一 人 入 了 世 界 , 死 又 是 从 罪 来 的 ; 於 是 死 就 临 到 众 人 , 因 为 众 人 都 犯 了 罪 .

  3. What do we call the fact that sin has been passed down from 1 generation to the next?

    我们把罪已经一代接一代传下去的事实称作什么?

    Application: Unfortunately, domestic violence has been a part of this world since the time of Adam and Eve. In fact, Adam and Eve’s son Abel was the first victim of domestic violence when his brother Cain took his life. Sadly, domestic violence will never be gone from this earthly life until Judgment Day. So long as sin reigns in the heart of mankind, every perverse sin of the heart, including domestic violence will remain as a part of the curse of sin and the consequences of a sinful world. As Christians, it’s vitally important that we understand the root cause of domestic violence because the way the world tries to change behavior will be drastically different from the way the Christian tries to deter bad behavior.

    应用:不幸的是,自从亚当和夏娃时代开始,家庭暴力就成了这个世界的一部分。事实上,当亚当和夏娃的儿子亚伯被他哥哥该隐所杀时,他成为家庭暴力的第一个受害者。不幸的是,家庭暴力一直要到审判日那天才会消除。只要罪控制人的内心,人心中每份堕落的罪,包括家庭暴力,既作为罪的诅咒的一部分,也作为有罪世界导致的后果而将继续存在。作为基督徒,至关重要的是我们要明白家庭暴力的根源是因为世人企图改变行为的方式与耶稣设法阻止坏行为的方式截然不同。

    Read the following…

    阅读以下经文…

    Job 14:4 Who can bring what is pure from the impure? No one!

    约伯记14:4谁 能 使 洁 净 之 物 出 於 污 秽 之 中 呢 ? 无 论 谁 也 不 能 !

  4. What does Job teach us about the human nature of a child coming forth from mom’s womb?

    关于出生于母腹的孩子的本性,约伯是怎样教导我们的?

Ezekiel 36:24-29 ”For I will take you out of the nations; I will gather you from all the countries and bring you back into your own land. 25 I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you will be clean; I will cleanse you from all your impurities and from all your idols. 26 I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. 27 And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws. 28 You will live in the land I gave your forefathers; you will be my people, and I will be your God. 29 I will save you from all your uncleanness.“

以西结书36:24-29 我 必 从 各 国 收 取 你 们 , 从 列 邦 聚 集 你 们 , 引 导 你 们 归 回 本 地 . 25我 必 用 清 水 洒 在 你 们 身 上 , 你 们 就 洁 净 了 . 我 要 洁 净 你 们 , 使 你 们 脱 离 一 切 的 污 秽 , 弃 掉 一 切 的 偶 像 . 26我 也 要 赐 给 你 们 一 个 新 心 , 将 新 灵 放 在 你 们 里 面 , 又 从 你 们 的 肉 体 中 除 掉 石 心 , 赐 给 你 们 肉 心 . 27我 必 将 我 的 灵 放 在 你 们 里 面 , 使 你 们 顺 从 我 的 律 例 , 谨 守 遵 行 我 的 典 章 . 28你 们 必 住 在 我 所 赐 给 你 们 列 祖 之 地 . 你 们 要 作 我 的 子 民 , 我 要 作 你 们 的 神 . 29我 必 救 你 们 脱 离 一 切 的 污 秽 , 也 必 命 五 谷 丰 登 , 不 使 你 们 遭 遇 饥 荒 .

Take special note of the subject of each verse, the word ”I“ and in the following blanks, describe what he will do beginning with verse 24…

从24节开始,特别注意每节经文的主语,”我“一词,并在后边空白处记述他将要做的事。

”I will ——————; I will ——————————. I will ——————– and you will be clean; I will ————————— from all your impurities and from all your idols. I will ———————– and —————–; I will —————- from you your heart of stone and ———- you a heart of flesh. I will ——————- in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws. (vs. 29) I will —————– from all your uncleanness.“

”我要——————;我要——————————. 我要————————你 们 就 洁 净 了。我要—————————

使 你 们 脱 离 一 切 的 污 秽 , 弃 掉 一 切 的 偶 像 .我要——————–和

———————–;我要———————–又 从 你 们 的 肉 体 中 除 掉 石 心———————–你 们 肉 心 .我要——————-你 们 里 面 , 使 你 们 顺 从 我 的 律 例,谨 守 遵 行 我 的 典 章 .(29节)我要—————– 你们脱 离 一 切 的 污 秽。“

Application: Recently, in America there has been a nation-wide agenda to stop bullying at school. There’s been a national awareness of young boys and girls ending their life through suicide because they are being picked on at school by older and bigger people. But putting up posters in the hallway that say, ”We are a no bullying-school“ will not stop bullying. Pouring millions and millions dollars into programs across our nation to prevent bullying will never stop bullying because what our government fails to recognize is the root cause of all sin. It stems from the Garden of Eden. If a person does not understand the root cause of sin, they can’t understand how to fix it either. Only through Christ and the power of the gospel can hearts and lives begin the process of change for the better.

应用:最近,在美国已经把阻止校园倚强凌弱事件提到全国性议程上来。小男孩和小女孩因为在学校被年长的大孩子们欺负结果以自杀结束生命的事件已引起全国关注。但是在学校走廊张贴海报声称 ”我们不是一所欺负弱小者的学校“并不能阻止这种行为。在全国投入百万美元来计划阻止欺负弱小者也绝对杜绝不了这种行为,因为我们的政府没有认识到所有罪的根源。它源自伊甸园。如果一个人不明白罪的根源,他们就不明白怎样对付罪。只有通过基督和福音的力量,心灵和生命才开始有更好的改变过程。

Read the following…

阅读以下经文…

Ephesians 2:1-5

以弗所书2:1-5

As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins, 2 in which you used to live when you followed the ways of this world and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now at work in those who are disobedient. 3 All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our sinful nature and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature objects of wrath. 4 But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, 5 made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved.

你 們 死 在 過 犯 罪 惡 之 中 , 他 叫 你 們 活 過 來 . 2那 時 , 你 們 在 其 中 行 事 為 人 , 隨 從 今 世 的 風 俗 , 順 服 空 中 掌 權 者 的 首 領 , 就 是 現 今 在 悖 逆 之 子 心 中 運 行 的 邪 靈 . 3我 們 從 前 也 都 在 他 們 中 間 , 放 縱 肉 體 的 私 慾 , 隨 著 肉 體 和 心 中 所 喜 好 的 去 行 , 本 為 可 怒 之 子 , 和 別 人 一 樣 . 4然 而 , 神 既 有 豐 富 的 憐 憫 , 因 他 愛 我 們 的 大 愛 , 5當 我 們 死 在 過 犯 中 的 時 候 , 便 叫 我 們 與 基 督 一 同 活 過 來 . 你 們 得 救 是 本 乎 恩 .

  1. “As for you”Who is this referring to?

    “对你们来说”这是指谁?

  2. Is verse 1 referring to a spiritual death or physical death?

    第一节是指灵性死亡还是肉体死亡?

  3. What can a spiritually dead person do to please God?

    一个灵里死了的人能做什么来取悦神?

  4. Who is the ”ruler of the kingdom of the air?“

    谁是”空中掌权者的首领?“

  5. Why is the spirit of the devil so prevalent in our world today?

    为什么邪灵在我们今天的世界如此猖獗?

  6. What is an ”object of wrath?“

    什么是”愤怒的对象?“

  7. Who made the Christian ”alive“ and able to respond to God’s grace? (v. 4)

    谁使基督徒”活过来“并能够回应神的恩典?(4节)

  8. Why, according to verse 5, is this entirely the grace of God that enabled us to respond to God’s love to us in Jesus and now be ”alive“?

    根据第五节,为什么使我们能够回应神籍着耶稣对我们的爱,并且现在”活过来“的完全是神的恩典?

  9. Why is it impossible for the world to change its ways without God coming into their hearts through the power of the gospel? (vs. 2)

    为什么没有神通过福音的大能进入人们心中,世界就不可能改变其轨迹?(2节)

How can we help victims? 如何帮助受害者

Our hearts and our prayers certainly go out to anyone who has been a victim of household abuse, be it physical abuse or sexual abuse or both. The road to recovery is not going to be a quick fix. In fact, the pain might never go away in this life. However, we can praise God for the life that he has prepared for us in heaven where the old order of things will be forever gone!

我们的内心当然为任何曾经遭到家庭暴力,身体虐待或是性虐待或是两种情况都有的受害者祷告。恢复的过程不是一蹴而就的。事实上,这种痛楚可能在此生难以消除。然而,我们可以赞美神,因为他已为我们预备了天国的生命,在那里过去的旧事将永不再来!

James 5:16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.

雅各书5:16 所 以 你 们 要 彼 此 认 罪 , 互 相 代 求 , 使 你 们 可 以 得 医 治 . 义 人 祈 祷 所 发 的 力 量 是 大 有 功 效 的 .

As Christians, let us not neglect the power of prayer. We have a heavenly Father who is deeply concerned about us his children. And he attaches a gospel promise to us in response to all of our requests to him. Read the following…

作为基督徒,让我们不要忽视祷告的力量。我们有一位深深地关怀我们的天父。

他以我们福音的应许来回应我们所有的祈求。阅读以下经文…

Romans 8:32 He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?

罗马书8:32神 既 不 爱 惜 自 己 的 儿 子 , 为 我 们 众 人 舍 了 , 岂 不 也 把 万 物 和 他 一 同 白 白 的 赐 给 我 们 麽 ?

God promises to give his children the very things that we need in this life in order to stay connected to his grace for the life to come when there will be no more pain, suffering, or sorrow. If God didn’t spare his Son for us, but knew that we needed his sacrifice to obtain forgiveness and eternal life, then it also stands to reason, according to Paul, that God will give other things that we need to cope with whatever bad things have occurred against us in our lifetime.

神应许赐给他的儿女我们此生中真正需要的东西,好叫我们为将到来的没有病痛,苦难,或悲伤的生命,与他的恩典维系在一起。如果神为我们既不爱惜自己的儿子, 而是知道我们需要他为我们舍身使我们获得宽恕和永生,根据保罗所说,那么自然的推理就是:神将赐给我们其他各方面的需要来应付我们人生中遭遇的任何不好的事情 .

Christian Counseling
基督徒心理辅导 大纲
Christian Counseling Catalog
第一课 上瘾
lesson 1 Addictions
第二课 婚前辅导
lesson 2 Marriage
第三课 自杀
Lesson 3 Suicide
第四课 愤怒
lesson 4 Anger
第五课 死亡与悲痛
Lesson 5 Death; grief
第六课 决策
lesson 6 Decision Making
第七课 抑郁
lesson 7 Depression
第八课 结婚,离婚,再婚
Lesson 8 Marriage, Divorce, & Remarriage
第九课 家庭暴力
Lesson 9 Domestic violence
第十课 妒忌和嫉妒
Lesson 10 Envy and Jealousy
第十一课 宽恕
Lesson 11 Forgiveness
第十二课 内疚
lesson 12 Guilt
第十三课 爱、归属、自尊
Lesson 13 Love, Belonging, & Self Esteem
第十四课 属灵的争战(第一部分)
Lesson 14 Spiritual Warfare
第十四课 属灵的争战(第二部分)
Lesson 14 Spiritual Warfare II
第十五课 金钱危机
Lesson 15 Money Crisis
第十六课 痛苦和磨难
Lesson 16 Pain & Suffering
第十七课 养育子女
lesson 17 Parenting
第十八课 完美主义
lesson 18 Perfectionism
第十九课 偏见
lesson 19 Prejudice
第九课 家庭暴力
Lesson 9 Domestic violence