Review the Home Study questions from Lesson 10
I. Love For Others 爱人
John 13:34 – “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.
Romans 13:8-9 – Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever loves his fellowman has fulfilled the law. The commandments, ”Do not commit adultery,“ ”Do not murder,“ ”Do not steal,“ ”Do not covet,“ and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one rule: ”Love your neighbor as yourself.“
A. In the second part of the Law, God commands us to love other people.
God wants us to love others in the same self-giving, unconditional way He loves us.
He wants us to love others continually and as naturally as we love ourselves.
1 John 4:19-21 – We love because He first loved us. If anyone says, ”I love God,“ yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. And He has given us this command: Whoever loves God must also love his brother.
B. God considers love for others to be an integral part of our love for Him.
We cannot love God while hating the people God places close to us and who need our help.
God’s love for us moves us to love both God and other people.
II. The Fourth Commandment 第四条诫命
Exodus 20:12 – ”Honor your father and mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.
A. In the Fourth Commandment, God teaches us that we must properly use the authority He gives us and genuinely respect the authority of those He places over us.
B. Authority in the family.
God gives parents authority and responsibility to raise their children in ways that bring them blessing.
1 Timothy 5:8 – If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
a. God wants parents to provide for the physical needs of their children.
Proverbs 22:6 – Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.
Proverbs 29:17 – Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will bring delight to your soul.
Proverbs 13:24 – He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.
b. He wants parents to lovingly train and discipline their children to live a wise, God-honoring life.
Ephesians 6:4 – Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Deuteronomy 6:6-7 – These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.
c. He wants parents to teach their children to believe God’s saving Word and to live as His devoted people.
d. God forbids parents to embitter their children by acting unreasonably or unfairly toward them.
God requires children to honor and obey their parents as God’s representatives.
Ephesians 6:2-3 – “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
Leviticus 19:3a – “Each of you must respect his mother and father.”
a. God wants children to respect their parents highly as His servants.
Proverbs 6:20, 23 - My son, keep your father’s commands and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. For these commands are a lamp, this teaching is a light, and the corrections of discipline are the way to life.
Proverbs 15:31-32 – He who listens to a life-giving rebuke will be at home among the wise. He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding.
b. He wants children to listen to and learn from the helpful instruction their parents give them.
Ephesians 6:1 – Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
Colossians 3:20 – Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
c. He wants children to obey their parents in all God-pleasing matters.
Leviticus 19:32 – “Rise in the presence of the aged, show respect for the elderly and revere your God. I am the Lord
d. God wants children to love and respect their parents and the elderly as part of their reverence for Him.
C. Authority in the church
Matthew 28:18-20 – Then Jesus came to them and said, ”All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to Me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.“
God gives His believers authority and responsibility to preach and teach God’s Word and administer Sacraments to make disciples for Christ.
2 Corinthians 5:18, 20 – All this is from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making His appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God.
Acts 20:28 – Keep watch over yourselves and all the flock of which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers. Be shepherds of the church of God, which He bought with his own blood.
God calls some of His believers to serve the spiritual welfare of others as public ministers of the Gospel.
Jeremiah 23:28b – ”Let the one who has my word speak it faithfully.“
Titus 2:15 – These, then, are the things you should teach. Encourage and rebuke with all authority. Do not let anyone despise you.
God wants His people to proclaim His Word faithfully and confidently as His servants.
1 Thessalonians 5:12-13 – Now we ask you, brothers, to respect those who work hard among you, who are over you in the Lord and who admonish you. Hold them in the highest regard in love because of their work. Live in peace with each other.
帖撒罗尼迦前书 5:12-13 ——12弟兄们，我们劝你们敬重那在你们中间劳苦的人，就是在主里面治理你们、劝诫你们的。13又因他们所做的工，用爱心格外尊重他们。
Hebrews 13:17 – Obey your leaders and submit to their authority. They keep watch over you as men who must give an account. Obey them so that their work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no advantage to you.
God wants us to respect and obey the spiritual leaders God has given for our spiritual welfare.
D. Authority in the government.
Romans 13:1-2, 4 – Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. Consequently, he who rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves. For he is God’s servant to do you good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword for nothing. He is God’s servant, an agent of wrath to bring punishment on the wrongdoer.
God has established governments to have authority and responsibility for the earthly welfare of people.
1 Peter 2:13-14 – Submit yourselves for the Lord’s sake to every authority instituted among men: whether to the king, as the supreme authority, or to governors, who are sent by him to punish those who do wrong and to commend those who do right.
Romans 13:5-7 – Therefore, it is necessary to submit to the authorities, not only because of possible punishment but also because of conscience. This is also why you pay taxes, for the authorities are God’s servants, who give their full time to governing. Give everyone what you owe him: If you owe taxes, pay taxes; if revenue, then revenue; if respect, then respect; if honor, then honor.
God wants us to respect, obey and support our government authorities in their work because of our love and reverence for Him.
E. Authority in society: work, school and other areas.
Titus 3:1-2 – Remind the people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready to do whatever is good, to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and to show true humility toward all men.
God has established other forms of authority for people as they live together in society.
a. God wants those in authority to exercise their authority in humble service to the Savior, treating those under them fairly and lovingly.
b. God wants those under authority to respect and obey those over them faithfully in humble service to the Lord.
F. The abuse of authority.
Authority is a precious gift God gives us by which we can serve the good of others and honor God.
People can abuse the authority God gives them by exercising it in selfish, sinful ways.
Acts 5:29 – Peter and the other apostles replied: ”We must obey God rather than men!
When those in authority demand that we sin by acting contrary to God’s will, then we may and must disobey them.
Daniel 3:15b-18, 28 – If you are ready to fall down and worship the image I made, very good. But if you do not worship it, you will be thrown immediately into a blazing furnace. Then what god will be able to rescue you from my hand?“ Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego replied to the king, ”O Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to defend ourselves before you in this matter. If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to save us from it, and He will rescue us from your hand, O king. But even if He does not, we want you to know, O king, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up.“ Then Nebuchadnezzar said, ”Praise be to the God of Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, who has sent his angel and rescued his servants! They trusted in Him and defied the king’s command and were willing to give up their lives rather than serve or worship any god except their own God.
15b若俯伏敬拜我们所造的像，却还可以；若不敬拜，必立时扔在烈火的窑中！有何神能救你们脱离我手呢？16沙得拉、米煞、亚伯尼歌回答王说：“尼布甲尼撒啊！这件事我们无需回答你。17如果我们被扔在火窑里，我们所事奉的 神必能拯救我们；王啊！他必拯救我们脱离烈火的窑和你的手。（本节或译：”如果我们所事奉的 神能拯救我们，王啊！他必拯救我们脱离烈火的窑和你的手。“）18即或不然，王啊！你要知道，我们决不事奉你的神，也不向你所立的金像下拜。”三人在烈火的窑中毫无损伤。
28尼布甲尼撒说：“沙得拉、米煞、亚伯尼歌的 神是应当称颂的，他差遣使者拯救那些倚靠他的仆人；他们违抗王的命令，宁愿舍命，除了自己的 神以外，不肯事奉敬拜任何其他的神。
a. We disobey because of our higher allegiance to God than to any person.
b. We disobey, trusting in God and being willing to make costly sacrifices for our loyalty to Him.
Ephesians 5:20-21 – Always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Submit to one another out of reverence of Christ.
以弗所书5:20-21 ——20凡事要奉我们主耶稣基督的名，常常感谢父神。 21又当存敬畏基督的心，彼此顺服。
Colossians 3:23-24 – Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.
G. May God lead us to respect His gift of authority and serve Him with all our hearts as we faithfully use the authority He gives us and live under the authority He places over us.
III. The Fifth Commandment 第五条诫命
Exodus 20:13 – ”You shall not murder.
A. In the Fifth Commandment, God teaches us that we must respect and preserve His precious gift of human life.
Job 33:4 – The Spirit of God has made me; the breath of the Almighty gives me life.
Isaiah 55:6 – Seek the Lord while He may be found; call on Him while He is near.
B. God gives us our life as a period of opportunity to come to believe in Him and fulfill His purposes for our lives.
Deuteronomy 32:39 – “See now that I myself am He! There is no god besides Me. I put to death and I bring to life, I have wounded and I will heal, and no one can deliver out of y hand.
Genesis 9:5b – From each man, too, I will demand an accounting for the life of his fellow man.
Romans 13:4 – For he is God’s servant to do you good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword for nothing. He is God’s servant, an agent of wrath to bring punishment on the wrongdoer.
C. God reserves for Himself and His appointed representatives in government the right to end a person’s life.
God allows the government to execute criminals.
God allows the government to take life in defense of its people and allies （just wars）。
D. In the Fifth Commandment, God demands of us the following things:
Ephesians 4:32 – Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
He wants us to be kind and compassionate to others and to forgive them when they sin against us.
Galatians 6:10 – Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believes.
Proverbs 19:17 – He who is kind to the poor lends to the Lord, and He will reward him for what he has done.
James 1:27a – Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress.
He wants us to do good to all people, especially to those in need.
Matthew 5:44 – But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.
God wants us to love and seek the good of even those who hate us.
2 Corinthian 7:1 – Since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God.
God wants us to care for our bodies and preserve them from harmful substances and practices.
E. In the Fifth Commandment, God forbids the following things:
Genesis 9:6 – ”Whoever sheds the blood of man, by man shall his blood be shed; for in the image of God has God made man.
Exodus 22:2 – “If a thief is caught breaking in and is struck so that he dies, the defender is not guilty of bloodshed.”
God forbids causing another person’s death except in matters of self-defense.
Psalm 31:15 – My times are in Your hands; deliver me from my enemies and from those who pursue me.
Acts 16:27-28 – The jailer woke up, and when he saw the prison doors open, he drew his sword and was about to kill himself because he thought the prisoners had escaped. But Paul shouted, “Don’t harm yourself! We are all here!”
God forbids suicide; killing oneself.
a. Many suicides are willful sins of unbelief, the result of sinful self-love and defiance toward God.
b. It is possible for a Christian to lose mental control and have their sinful nature lead them to commit suicide as a pardoned sin of weakness.
c. We must be careful and charitable when making judgments about the eternal destinies of professing Christians who commit suicide.
Psalm 139:13, 15-17 – For You created my inmost being; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. My frame was not hidden from You when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, Your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in Your book before one of them came to be. How precious to me are Your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them!
Exodus 21:22-23 – “If men who are fighting hit a pregnant woman and she gives birth prematurely but there is no serious injury, the offender must be fined whatever the woman’s husband demands and the court allows. But if there is serious injury, you are to take life for life,
God forbids taking the life of unborn children （abortion） when the life of the mother is not in danger.
a. God gives life to the unborn already at the time of their conception and tells us that it is sacred.
b. Intentionally ending that life is a selfish, irresponsible slaughter of an innocent life.
c. The abortion of an unborn child who is unwanted or malformed or the product of rape, incest or one mentally incompetent is based on the faulty idea that a person’s life and worth is to be measured, not by its God-given sanctity, but by a subjective human ethic of quality or usefulness.
Proverbs 31:8-9 – ”Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute. Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy.“
d. God calls on believers to protect the lives of the unborn and others who are weak and not able to defend themselves.
e. Taking the life of an unborn child if the mother would lose her life by giving birth is another matter. A prayerful choice of which life to save may have to be made and would not violate the Fifth Commandment’s principle of not willfully or needlessly taking another person’s life.
Proverbs 6:16b, 17b – The Lord hates … hands that shed innocent blood.
God forbids mercy killing （euthanasia） or assisted suicide.
a. God does not want anyone to cause or help a person to die more quickly than he/she naturally would.
b. To induce or hasten a person’s death is to put oneself in God’s place as the one who determines the end of life.
c. Permitting a person to die naturally when further medication and procedures would only prolong life a short time or artificially is another matter. In situations like this, a Christian may choose to let a condition take its natural course without further treatment. Such a choice would not violate the Fifth Commandment.
Romans 13:10a – Love does no harm to its neighbor.
God forbids us to physically or mentally hurt, shorten or add misery to the life of another person or ourselves. Examples of such harm would be:
a. Embittering another’s life through insults, nagging.
b. Reckless, irresponsible driving
c. Harmful, unhealthy habits or practices.
d. Worrying or causing other to worry.
e. Fighting when it is not to defend yourself or another
f. Polluting the environment.
g. Abusing a spouse, child.
h. Being involved in or promoting any kind of drug abuse including alcohol, tobacco and illegal drugs.
j. Not getting sufficient rest and exercise.
1 John 3:15 – Anyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life in him.
Ephesians 4:26 – In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,
Romans 12:19 – Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ”It is mine to avenge; I will repay,“ says the Lord.
God forbids us to hate, hold a grudge against or seek revenge against anyone.
Psalm 139:14 – I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
1 John 3:16-18 – This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down His life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters. If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person? Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.
F. May God lead us to cherish the gift of life He gives us and gladly serve the physical needs of others.
IV. The Sixth Commandment 第六条诫命
Exodus 20:14 – ”You shall not commit adultery.
A. In the Sixth Commandment, God teaches us that we must properly honor and use His gift of sexuality.
B. In the Sixth Commandment, God demands of us the following things:
Philippians 4:8 – Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
God wants us to be pure in what we think and say.
Titus 2:11-12 – For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age,
He wants us to express our sexuality in a God-pleasing way.
1 Corinthians 6:18 – Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.
He wants us to avoid all temptations to sexual sins.
Hebrews 13:4 – Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
He wants us to honor His institution of marriage and to reserve sexual relations only for one’s marriage partner.
C. In the Sixth Commandment, God forbids the following things.
Matthew 5:28 – But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
God forbids us to have sexually impure thoughts and desires.
Ephesians 5:3-4 – But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving
God forbids us to improperly talk or joke about sex or to use pornographic materials.
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 – Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
Romans 1:26-27 – Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.
God forbids us to sexually abuse another person or to have sexual relations outside marriage including such practices as:
a. Adultery （being sexually unfaithful while married）。 通奸（有婚外的不忠性关系）
b. Fornication （consenting intercourse by an unmarried person）。 私通（与未婚的人保持性关系）
c. Rape. 强奸
d. Incest. 乱伦
e. Homosexual or lesbian activity. 男同性恋或女同性恋
f. Prostitution. 卖淫
g. Sexual abuse. 性虐
h. Bestiality （intercourse with animals）。 兽交（与动物相交）
i. Masturbation. 手淫
D. In the Sixth Commandment, God also protects His gift of marriage.
Genesis 2:18, 21-24 – The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
God established marriage as a sacred union of one man and one woman for their blessing.
Romans 7:2 – For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage.
God intends marriage to be a life-long union which He ends with the death of one or both of the spouses.
E. God’s purposes in establishing marriage.
Genesis 2:18 – The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
1 Corinthians 6:16b – “The two will become one flesh.”
In marriage God provides a partner to be an intimate companion and supporter for the spouse. This intimacy is most deeply expressed in sexual relations.
Genesis 1:28 a – God blesses them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it.
Psalm 127:3 – Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from Him.
In marriage God grants the precious gift of children.
a. ”In married life God gives children and commands us to bring them up and serve Him. To do this is the most precious work on earth because nothing may be done which pleases God more than saving souls“ （Martin Luther）。
b. God usually intends married couples to have children and does not want people to interfere with His plans to give them.
c. When contemplating pregnancy prevention, a couple will want to be sure that no faulty beliefs or selfish motivation is guiding them and that are prayerfully seeking God’s will.
d. Couples who are not able to have children are not being punished by God.
1 Corinthians 7:2, 9 – But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Since humanity’s fall into sin, marriage also helps people resist temptations to have unlawful sexual relationships.
F. Choosing a marriage partner.
Proverbs 31:10, 28-30 – A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: ”Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.“ Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
In His Word, God emphasizes the wisdom in and benefit for a believer choosing a fellow Christian for a marriage partner.
a. A Christian spouse can be a wholesome spiritual influence on a person and help him/her in his/her relationship with God.
b. A Christian spouse is a great help in raising a Christian family.
1 Kings 11:1a, 2, 4 – King Solomon, however, loved many foreign women. They were from nations about which the Lord had told the Israelites, ”You must not intermarry with them, because they will surely turn your hearts after their gods.“ Nevertheless, Solomon held fast to them in love. As Solomon grew old, his wives turned his heart after other gods, and his heart was not fully devoted to the Lord his God, as the heart of David his father had been.
In His Word God also points out the great spiritual dangers involved in choosing to marry a non-Christian.
a. A non-Christian spouse can exert a harmful spiritual influence that weakens and even ruin a person’s relationship with God.
b. A non-Christian spouse or one who has an erring faith can make it difficult to raise children to be Christians.
While it is not a sin to marry a non-Christian, it is not a good idea.
G. Establishing a marriage.
Mark 10:7-8 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one.
Amos 3:3 – Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?
A marriage is established in God’s sight when a man and a woman make a willing, unconditional promise to each other to live together as husband and wife.
Since a marriage changes a person’s primary allegiance and responsibility from his/her existing family to his/her spouse, it is proper to see the permission of the parents.
While a mutual promise binds a man and a woman in marriage before God, the couple is not free to live together and have sexual relations until the government’s requirements have been met and they receive public recognition of their marriage. This is in keeping with the Fourth Commandment.
H. Living in a marriage.
God gives certain responsibilities to married people in their relationship with their spouses.
Ephesians 5:25, 28 – Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
1 Peter 3:7 – Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
God requires that husbands love, respect and serve the good of their wives as Christ Himself did for His believers. He wants husbands to cherish their wives as the part of their own self they have become by being united in marriage.
Ephesians 5:22-23 – Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior.
Proverbs 31:12 – She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
God requires that wives love, and serve the good of their husbands and respect their husbands’ God-given leadership as believers do for their Lord.
1 Corinthians 7:3-4 – The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.
God requires that both spouses respect and satisfy each other’s needs for sexual relations.
Philippians 2:3-4 – Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
God requires that both spouses renounce self-centeredness and humbly strive to do what is best for each other.
1 Corinthians 7:16 – How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
1 Peter 3:1-2 – Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.
If a Christian has an unbelieving spouse, God wants the believer to live in a godly way in marriage in hopes that the unbeliever will be led to faith in Christ.
Malachi 2:15b-16a – So guard yourself in your spirit and do not break faith with the wife of your youth. ”I hate divorce“, says the Lord God.
Matthew 19:6 – So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.
God strongly states that He does not want people to break the sacred marriage bond and cause a divorce.
Divorce, like other sins, begins in the heart when one or both parties decide that they will no longer live in faithful union with their spouse.
Matthew 19:9 – I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.
A person may decide to get a divorce because of adultery by the spouse.
1 Corinthians 7:15 – But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.
A person may decide to get a divorce because of malicious desertion by an unbelieving spouse.
a. Malicious desertion is evident desertion of the marriage vow through definite and persistent action.
b. It includes such things as permanent separation, permanent refusal of sexual intercourse, actions that make life together impossible – threats, violence, refusal of support.
c. It does not include things such as incompatibility, loss of love for the spouse, irreconcilable differences.
Luke 17:3 – So watch yourselves. ”If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him.
The Scriptures do not give divorce as the first option when adultery or malicious desertion takes place. The option the Bible gives first is restoring the relationship through repentance and forgiveness.
If the guilty partner is not willing to be reconciled, the innocent/repentant partner may get a divorce to testify to the end of the union.
1 Corinthians 7:39 – A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.
Death ends the marriage bond. After the death of a spouse, a person is free to remarry.
A divorced Christian can remarry.
a. An innocent party in a divorce is a single person again and is free to marry again.
b. A guilty party who caused a divorce may only properly remarry if he/she is repentant for causing the previous divorce.
Mark 10:11-12 – He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.”
A guilty party in a divorce who remarries without repenting is living in an adulterous union contrary to God’s will.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-6a – It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him.
1 Corinthians 6:13b, 19-20 – The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
K. May God lead us to treasure His gift of sexuality and to devote ourselves to living sexually pure, God-honoring lives.
V. Home Study 家庭作业
A. LESSON REVIEW: Mark each statement either A （Agree） or D （Disagree）
—– 1. We cannot love God if we hate other people.
—– 1. 如果我们恨恶他人，就不能爱神。
—– 2. Authority is a curse God places on the world to restrict and interfere with our happiness.
—– 2. 权威是神对这世界下的诅咒，为要限制和干涉我们的快乐。
—– 3. God gives parents the primary responsibility for the spiritual training of their children.
—– 3. 上帝赐予父母的基本责任就是对孩子作灵性方面的培养。
—– 4. A child’s duty toward his/her parents ends when the child leaves home to establish his/her own household.
—– 4. 当孩子离家去建立自己的家庭，他/她对父母的义务就结束了。
—– 5. The authority God gives the Church is the authority to serve people with His Word.
—– 5. 上帝赐给教会的权柄就是用他的话语侍奉人的权柄。
—– 6. We are not obligated to obey laws that we do not like.
—– 6. 我们没有义务遵守那些我们不喜欢的律法。
—– 7. Our life is a period of opportunity God gives us to fulfill His purposes for us.
—– 7. 上帝赐给我们生命，使我们在这段时间里有机会完成他的目的。
—– 8. All taking of life is wrong and sinful.
—– 8. 所有夺取生命的行为都是错误的、有罪的。
—– 9. Suicide is an unpardonable sin.
—– 9. 自杀是不可饶恕的罪。
—– 10. Taking the life of an unborn child or a terminally ill person is justifiable since that person’s quality of life is relatively low.
—– 10. 因为还未出生的孩子或是身患绝症的人的生命力相对来说已经很弱了，所以夺走他们的生命是有道理的。
—– 11. We can break the Fifth Commandment by not getting enough sleep.
—– 11. 如果我们睡眠不足，我们就可以打破第五条诫命。
—– 12. Sexual relations between two consenting adults is okay as long as they care for each other.
—– 12. 只要两个人互相关心，彼此愿意，发生性关系就是可以的。
—– 13. It is wise for a Christian to choose a fellow believer in Christ for a marriage partner.
—– 13. 对一个基督徒来说，选择一个信徒作为结婚的伴侣是很明智的。
—– 14. The biggest problem couples face in marriage is their own selfishness.
—– 14. 婚姻中夫妻双方面对的最大问题就是他们的自私。
—– 15. God insists that married people seek to restore their relationship through repentance and forgiveness when sin threatens to destroy it.
—– 15. 上帝坚持，在婚姻受到罪的威胁要破裂的时候，夫妻要通过悔改和宽恕来重建婚姻关系。
B. PERSONAL REFLECTIONS （Answer the following questions）
What are some ways that proper use of and respect for authority bring blessing to our world?
Who is someone outside my family that I can help by caring for their physical needs?
At this point in my life, how can I express my sexuality in ways that honor God?
C. MEMORY TREASURES: （Memorize the following Bible verses to build up your knowledge of God’s Word）
John 13:34 – “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.
Romans 13:8 – Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for he who loves his fellowman has fulfilled the law.
D. READING DURING THE WEEK
—– Day 1 – John 11 第一天： 约翰福音11章
—– Day 2 – John 12 第二天： 约翰福音12章
—– Day 3 – John 13 第三天： 约翰福音13章
—– Day 4 – John 14 第四天： 约翰福音14章
—– Day 5 – John 15 第五天： 约翰福音15章
—– Day 6 – John 16 第六天： 约翰福音16章
—– Day 7 – John 17 第七天： 约翰福音17章
Hymn 458: 1, 3 in Christian Worship: ”May We Your Precepts, Lord, Fulfill“
May we Your precepts, Lord fulfill
And do on earth our Father’s will
As angels do above,
Still walk in Christ, the living way,
With all Your children, and obey
The law of Christian love.
Spirit of life, of love, of peace,
Unite our hearts, our joy increase,
Your gracious help supply.
To each of us the blessing give
In Christian fellowship to live,
In joyful hope to die.