第十四课 (Lesson Fourteen)
CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE AND FAMILY
God has always wanted stability for humanity. When He first created the universe and people, He created with the intent that there would be stability. He accomplished this by creating the male and female genders and establishing the basic building block of every society, marriage and the family that springs from it.
Nothing has been so misused, abused and misunderstood as the marriage and family. The destruction of family life is a consequence of sin. Let’s look at God’s plan for marriage and family, and see how God wants to help sinners have the stable lives He intended.
What is God’s design for marriage?
Genesis 2:18-24: The creation account shows how God created men to correspond to women. He has needs that only she could meet. She has needs that only he could meet. God’s design for marriage is verse 24:
“That is why a man will leave his father and mother and will be united with his wife and they will become one flesh.”
From this verse we learn the three ingredients that make a marriage valid:
- One —— and one ———–. (From the beginning God intended marriage to be heterosexual.)
- “A man will ———- his father and mother”:
God intends that both the man and the woman are of age to establish a home independent of their parents. He intends that they be free to marry (not illegally divorced, not still married to someone else).
NOTE: The fourth commandment requires us to ask our parents’ blessings for the marriage.
- “Be united with his ————, and they will become —————. Marriage is the public promises couples make to keep their marriage vows until death separates them.
COMMITMENT is the glue of marriage.
- “与他的———结合， 然后他们会———”
What needs does marriage address?
- Genesis 2:18-24 Mutual companionship.
- 创世纪 2：18-24 互相陪伴
God designed them to need each other.
God designed them to meet each other’s need.
(1). She is soft where he is rough.女人温柔，男人刚强。
(2). She is emotional where he is logical.女人感性，男人理性。
(3). He is strong where she is weak.男人强壮，女人柔弱。
God gave us perfectly coordinated genders to meet those needs.
- Genesis 2:24c and 1 Corinthians 7:3-4: Sexual Satisfaction
- 创世纪 2:24c 和哥林多前书7:3-4: 性需求的满足
Marriage is a gift that God designed as the right way to satisfy our sexual needs.
Sex is giving as much as it is getting.
- Genesis 1:28 and Malachi 2:15: Children
- 创世纪 1:28 和玛拉基书 2:15 ：孩子
Children are a blessing (Psalms 127 & 128)
Children are an asset (Psalms 127 & 128)
Children are responsibility that God may give.
Does God allow a Christian to get a divorce?
Malachi 2:16: God hates divorce.
玛拉基书 2:16 神恨恶离婚。
However, God allows divorce if a spouse has destroyed the essence of marriage. A marriage is not ruined unless one of the partners destroys its essence. This is important to remember, especially when a marriage is falling far short of what God intended. God allows a spouse to divorce if the other has already destroyed the essence of marriage. God doesn’t permit divorce just because the marriage is falling short of what God intended.
Matthew 19:3-9: God permits divorce if a spouse has committed ———–.
马太福音 19:3—9： 神允许离婚，如果配偶的一方已经犯了————
1 Corinthians 7:12-16: God permits divorce if a spouse ————— the marriage.
哥林多前书 7:12—16： 神允许离婚，如果配偶的一方———–婚姻。
For a happy marriage and to help overcoming marriage troubles, God gives:
Ephesians 4:32 —————— is the key to a happy marriage.
以弗所书 4:32 ———–是幸福婚姻的关键。
1 Peter 4:12-19 —————— to hang in there through when times get tough.
1 Peter 5:7-11 Suffering as a Christian in a difficult marriage is no different from other Christian suffering. God promises to be with us and to give us the power and joy that comes from doing the right thing.
Hebrews 10:23-25 ————————- give encouragement to support us when we are struggling.
希伯来书 10:23—25 ————-给我们鼓励，帮助我们，当我们挣扎的时候。
Ephesians 5:22-33 —————— guides you to be the right kind of role model as a husband or wife.
以弗所书 5:22-23 ————-引导你成为模范丈夫或妻子。
1 Peter 3:1-7
A. Husbands are the lead role model for Jesus’ loving service and sacrifice in the family. (verse 25)
B. Wives role model Jesus’ serving and submitting example. (verse 22)
Additional comments on the roles of men and women:
- Galatians 3:26-29 Men and women enjoy equal status in their re-established relationship with God. He promotes them to identical positions in His family of believers.
- 加拉太书 3:26—29 男人和女人在与神重新建立的关系里，地位等同。神使他们在信徒大家庭里也地位等同。
- Genesis 2:7,18,22 God established the roles for men and women in a perfect world.
- 创世纪2:7,18,22 神在完美的世界里为男人和女人建立了角色。
- 1 Corinthians 11:2-16 These roles also apply as we do God’s Work in church groups.
1 Timothy 2:12,13
- 哥林多前书11:2-16 这些规则与我们在教会团体里为神做工一样适用。
提摩太前书2:12,13 替代文本 Jesus wants to be the head of the house. He is the invisible third member of each Christian marriage. It is a healthy marriage when He gets top priority. The closer we get to Jesus, the closer we will get to each other.
HOMEWORK: Read 1 Corinthians 13 (the entire chapter). Be ready to tell how you would answer a friend who said she was divorcing her husband because she didn’t love him anymore.