Thanks to Disciple Makers Handbook; 2010
mentor (men’ ter), n. [Gr. Mentor, lit. adviser], 1. [M] in Greek legend, the loyal friend and wise adviser of Odysseus (Ulysses), and teacher and guardian of Odysseus’ son, Telemachus. 2. a wise, loyal adviser.
Viewing Yourself as a Mentor
The list below are life skills that parents might purposefully teach their children. If you are a parent, chose a skill from that list that you made sure your child learned. If you are not a parent, which skill did your father or mother want you most to master?
• Fishing 钓鱼
• Gardening 园艺
• Dressing in a stylish way 穿着入时的方法
• Driving a car 开车
• Hunting 打猎
• Swimming 游泳
• Cooking 做饭
• Playing a sport 体育项目
• Singing 唱歌
• Speaking well 会说话
• Maintaining a car 保养一辆汽车
• Doing household Repairs 做室内修补
• Repairing machinery 修理机器
• Operating a computer 电脑操作
• Other 其它
Why was this so important for you to teach your child (or for your parents to teach you)?
It was essential to doing well in life.
It was something that gave me great enjoyment.
My father/mother taught me how to master this skill. I wanted to share it with the next generation.
Society expects children to know how to do this skill.
My children wanted to learn how to master this skill.
What did you (or your parents) do to teach this skill?
The Components of Mentoring
There are three components to mentoring. It is intentional. It is individualized. It is Spirit-empowered.
We will take a closer look at each component. However, before we do that, now is the time for you to start thinking about a believer the Spirit has positioned you to mentor. You’ll find it helpful to think about a specific person when we talk about those components.
Mentoring is Intentional
a. Jesus based his mentoring on building a relationship between himself and his disciples. Is there any evidence that his approach to mentoring was planned, well-considered, intentional? Is there any evidence of Jesus’ mentoring was accidental, that it “just happened”? Comment on these examples.
i. Simon Peter, the impetuous fisherman
Luke 5:1-11 路加福音5：1-11
ii. Zacchaeus, the hated tax man
Luke 19:1-16 路加福音 19：1-16
iii. The woman who was society’s outcast
John 4:7-15 约翰福音 4：7——15
Mentoring is Individualized
a. The Savior never views anyone as just another name in his heavenly computer file. Like Jeremiah, he has known us from eternity and created us to be unique beings.
i. “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations” (Jeremiah 1:5).
b. He recognizes us as unique individuals,
i. The LORD says..,, “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine” (Isaiah 43:1).
c. He directs our lives, shaping our experiences to personally fit us.
i. No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it (1 Corinthians 10:13).”
d. The Gospel record of Jesus’ training his disciples shows how he dealt with each one according to their personality, their needs, their worldview. Think back to Jesus’ approach to inviting Peter, Zacchaeus, and the Samaritan woman to follow him. Notice: These were three different people. He approached them in three different ways.
e. What do you know about the person you might mentor? Fill in as much information as you can. You can complete the list later. Are there other areas it would be good for you to know about if you are to mentor this person as an individual? How will this information affect the way you mentor this person?
• Person you might mentor 你可能要辅导的人是：
• Age 年龄：
• Hobbies 爱好：
• Children (age, gender) 孩子（年龄，性别）：
• Birth family 出生家庭：
• Areas of personal strengths 个人的长处：
• Areas needing improvement 需要改进的地方：
• Marital status 婚姻状况：
• Education 教育程度：
• Employer/job title 顾主/工作职称：
• Goals for life 生活目标：
• Spiritual health 灵命健康状况：
• Other 其他：
One way to think about a well-rounded approach to mentoring another Christian is to consider five key areas of our Christian life.
a. Friendship: living out Christ’s love for us as we love others
b. Evangelism: sharing the message of Christ’s love for us
c. Emotional healing: bringing our emotions in line with the truth of Christ’s love for us.
d. Scripture knowledge: learning the truth of Christ’s love for us
e. Modeling: demonstrating Christ’s love so others see how to live it out
Aspects of Mentoring You’ve Experienced through Others
a. Think of relationships in your life that have helped you grow in Christ. Describe one way you have experienced the truths mentioned in the following passages.
i. Friendship 友谊
(1) 1 Thessalonians 2:8, We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well, because you had become so dear to us.
帖撒罗尼迦前书 2：8 “我们既是这样爱你们，不但愿意将神的福音给你们，连自己的性命也愿意给你们，因你们是我们所疼爱的。”
(2) Your experience 你的经历：
(1) Matthew 28:19, Go and make disciples of all nations.
马太福音 28：19 “你们要往普天下去传福音给万民听。”
(2)Your experience 你的经历：
iii. Emotional Healing 情绪医治
(1) 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.
哥林多后书 1:3-4 愿颂赞归于我们的主耶稣基督的父神，就是发慈悲的父，赐各样安慰的神。我们在一切患难中，他就安慰我们，叫我们能用神所赐的安慰去安慰那遭各样患难的人。
(2) Your experience 你的经历：
iv. Scripture Knowledge 认识圣经
(1) John 15:10-11, If you obey my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have obeyed my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.
(2) Your experience:你的经历
(1) 1 Corinthians 11:1 Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.
哥林多前书 11:1 你们该效法我，像我效法基督一样。
(2) Your experience:你的经历：
b. What kinds of things might you do for and with the person you are mentoring to help him develop in these areas?
i. Friendship 友谊
ii. Evangelism 传福音
iii. Emotional healing 情绪医治
iv. Scripture knowledge 认识圣经
v. Modeling 榜样
c. Review those five areas of your Christian life.
i. In which area are you best equipped to help your friend?
ii. In which area are you least equipped?
iii. How might you make up for that weakness?
Empowered by God’s Word and Sacraments
a. We hear Paul describe how essential the Spirit’s role is in mentoring when he writes to the Colossians.
i. We proclaim [Christ], admonishing and teaching everyone with all wisdom, so that we may present everyone perfect in Christ. To this end I labor, struggling with all his energy, which so powerfully works in me (1:28-29).
b. But mentoring is not anything we can do in our own power. What do these verses say about the importance of involving the Spirit in the work of mentoring?
i. Philippians 2:13, It is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose.
腓立比书 2：13 因为你们立志行事，都是神在你们心里运行，为要成就他的美意。
ii. 1 Corinthians 12:3 No one can say, “Jesus is Lord,” except by the Holy Spirit.
哥林多前书 12：3 若不是被圣灵感动的，也没有能说耶稣是主的。
iii. Romans 10:17, Faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word of Christ.
罗马书 10：17 可见信道是从听道来的，听道是从基督的话来的。
iv. Psalm 119:9-16, How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to your word. I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands. I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you. Praise be to you, O LORD; teach me your decrees. With my lips I recount all the laws that come from your mouth. I rejoice in following your statutes as one rejoices in great riches. I meditate on your precepts and consider your ways. I delight in your decrees; I will not neglect your word.
诗篇 119：9-16 少年人用什么洁净他的行为呢？是要遵行你的话。我一心寻求了你，求你不要叫我偏离你的命令。我将你的话藏在心里，免得我得罪你。耶和华啊，你是应当称颂的！求你将你的律例教训我。我用嘴唇传扬你口中的一切典章。我喜悦你的法度，如同喜悦一切的财物。我要默想你的训词，看中你的道路。我要在你的律例中自乐，我不忘记你的话。
c. How will a mentor put this Scriptural principal into practice?
Empowered by Prayer
a. Paul sincerely wanted the Christians at Philippi to grow in their relationship with Jesus and to become mentors of still others. Notice his prayer for them.
i. God can testify how I long for all of you with the affection of Christ Jesus. And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ – to the glory and praise of God (Philippians 1:8-11).
腓立比书 1：8-11 我体会基督耶稣的心肠，切切地想念你们众人，这是神可以给我作见证的。我所祷告的，就是要你们的爱心，在知识和各样见识上多而又多，使你们能分别是非，作诚实无过的人，直到基督的日子；并靠着耶稣基督结满了仁义的果子，叫荣耀称赞归于神。
（1） What is at the heart of Paul’s prayer?
（2） What two things does he want to happen as the result of his prayer?
（3） If we follow Paul’s example, what will our prayer life be like for the believers we mentor?
（a） What will we pray for?
（b） How will we structure our mentoring so we become tools in gaining our desired answer to our prayer?
Empowered by Exemplifying Christian Leadership
a. Paul urged Timothy to train the next generation of Christians leaders just as Timothy was trained by Paul.
i. The things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable men who will also be qualified to teach others (2 Timothy 2:2).
ii. The training of future generations of Christian leaders is now our responsibility.
b. No one can teach what he hasn’t learned for himself. No doubt that’s why God is insistent that people who lead in his kingdom must practice their faith. Consider God’s character description of a Christian leader in 1 Timothy 3:2-7. Notice the things God says are essential for a Christian leader to have mastered.
i. Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?) He must not be a recent convert, or he may become conceited and fall under the same judgment as the devil. He must also have a good reputation with outsiders, so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devil’s trap.
提摩太前书 3：2-7 作监督的，必须无可指责，只作一个妇人的丈夫，有节制，自守、端正，乐意接待远人，善于教导；不因酒滋事、不打人，只要温和，不争竞、不贪财；好好管理自己的家，使儿女凡事端庄、顺服。人若不知道管理自己的家，焉能照管神的教会呢？初入教的不可作监督，恐怕他自高自大，就落在魔鬼所受的刑罚里。监督也必须在教外有好名声，恐怕被人毁谤，落在魔鬼的网罗里。
ii. What would you consider to be the five most important characteristics in this list? Explain your choices.
c. God has not given us this character description of a leader primarily to eliminate anyone from leadership, but to spur us on to authentic Christian leadership. That’s why it is not appropriate for us to look at the type of leader God wants and reason, “I’m not like that. God doesn’t want me to lead.” Rather God’s description urges us on to become an exemplary Christian so we can lead and in that way better honor him for his grace.
i. Where do you especially need to improve in your walk with the Savior?
ii. Is there someone who might mentor you in that area?
iii. When will you ask for his help?
Mentoring Requires Trust in God’s Timetable
The Spirit is the one who brings about spiritual growth through the means of grace. Put in your own words how Paul explains to the Corinthians that no mentor can take credit for another Christians’ walk with the Lord.
a. So neither he who plants nor he who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow. The man who plants and the man who waters have one purpose, and each will be rewarded according to his own labor. For we are God’s fellow workers; you are God’s field, God’s building (1 Corinthians 3:7-9).
哥林多前书 3：7-9 可见栽种的算不得什么，浇灌的也算不得什么；只有那叫他生长的神。栽种的和浇灌的，都是一样。但将来个人要照自己的工夫得自己的赏赐。因为我们是与神同工的；你们是神所栽种的田地，所建造的房屋。
b. This passage also talks about being willing to adapt to God’s timetable for Christian growth as each Christian responds to God’s grace in his own unique way. What did you learn here about trusting God’s timetable?
c. How might the following issues cause a mentor to become frustrated with God’s timetable for another believer’s growth?
i. Fear that he (the mentor) is not doing an adequate job.
ii. Frustration that he has wasted his time and energy.
iii. Desire to make the person he is mentoring like him.
iv. Feeling it is up to him to make the person he is mentoring change.
v. Pride he knows how the mentoring process should work in this person’s life.
vi. Feeling he lacks whatever it takes to mentor another.
vii. Any other issue you might want to add:
d. Below is a list of ways a mentor may deal with roadblocks to mentoring. Evaluate their value.
i. With repentance.
ii. With continued and increased use of the means of grace.
iii. By giving up on mentoring.
iv. By asking another Christian to help him work through these issues.
v. By asking God for help with these issues.
vi. By asking the Lord to change his heart.
vii. By choosing to act on God’s promises, not his own feelings.
The Savior did not wait for Peter, Zacchaeus, the Samaritan woman, or anyone else to come to him. He took the initiative and invited them to follow.
a. Whom has the Lord put in your life that you might mentor?
b. When and where will you talk to this person about getting together with you?
c. What will you say?
d. Obviously, you’ll work out mentoring goals with the person who agrees to be taught by you. But, for right now, what goals might you have for your friend? Remember the five aspects of mentoring.
i. Friendship: living out Christ’s love for us as we love others
ii. Evangelism: sharing the message of Christ’s love for us
iii. Emotional healing: bringing our emotions in line with the truth of Christ’s love for us.
iv. Scripture knowledge: learning the truth of Christ’s love for us
v. Modeling: demonstrating Christ’s love so others see how to live it out
e. Are there other Christians who will become a support group for you?
f. What will you pray for in the meantime?