Spiritual Mentoring: A Primer for Christians
Spiritual Mentoring: A Primer for Christians
Thanks to Disciple Makers Handbook; 2010
mentor (men’ ter), n. [Gr. Mentor, lit. adviser], 1. [M] in Greek legend, the loyal friend and wise adviser of Odysseus (Ulysses), and teacher and guardian of Odysseus’
son, Telemachus. 2. a wise, loyal adviser.
Viewing Yourself as a Mentor
The list below are life skills that parents might purposefully teach their children. If you are a parent, chose a skill from that list that you made sure your child learned. If you are not a parent, which skill did your father or mother want you most to master?
Dressing in a stylish way 穿着入时的方法
Driving a car 开车
Playing a sport 体育项目
Speaking well 会说话
Maintaining a car 保养一辆汽车
Doing household Repairs 做室内修补
Repairing machinery 修理机器
Operating a computer 电脑操作
Why was this so important for you to teach your child (or for your parents to teach you)?
It was essential to doing well in life. 因为它是良好生活的基本。
It was something that gave me great enjoyment. 因为它能给我带来极大的享受。
My father/mother taught me how to master this skill. I wanted to share it with the next generation. 我的父母教给我怎样掌握这个技能。我想与下一代分享。
Society expects children to know how to do this skill.因为这是社会对孩子的要求，他们需要知道如何运用这个技能。
My children wanted to learn how to master this skill. 因为我的孩子想学习掌握这个技能的方法。
What did you (or your parents) do to teach this skill?
The Components of Mentoring
There are three components to mentoring. It is intentional. It is individualized. It is Spirit-empowered.
We will take a closer look at each component. However, before we do that, now is the time for you to start thinking about a believer the Spirit has positioned you to mentor. You’ll find it helpful to think about a specific person when we talk about those components.
- Mentoring is Intentional 辅导是有目的性的。
a. Jesus based his mentoring on building a relationship between himself and his disciples. Is there any evidence that his approach to mentoring was planned, well-considered, intentional? Is there any evidence of Jesus’ mentoring was accidental, that it “just happened”? Comment on these examples.
i. Simon Peter, the impetuous fisherman 西门比得，一个鲁莽冲动的渔夫。
(1) Luke 5:1-11 路加福音5：1-11
ii. Zacchaeus, the hated tax man撒该 ，被人憎恨的收税官
(1) Luke 19:1-16路19：1-16
iii. The woman who was society’s outcast 被社会遗弃的妇女
(1) John 4:7-15约4：7——15
- Mentoring is Individualized 辅导针对个体进行
a. The Savior never views anyone as just another name in his heavenly computer file. Like Jeremiah, he has known us from eternity and created us to be unique beings.
i. “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations” (Jeremiah 1:5).
b. He recognizes us as unique individuals,
i. The LORD says..,, “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine” (Isaiah 43:1).
c. He directs our lives, shaping our experiences to personally fit us.
i. No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it (1 Corinthians 10:13).” 你们所遇见的试探，无非是人所能受的。神是信实的，必不叫你们受试探过于所能受的。在受试探的时候，总要给你们开一条出路，叫你们能忍受得住。“（林前10：13）
d. The Gospel record of Jesus’ training his disciples shows how he dealt with each one according to their personality, their needs, their worldview. Think back to Jesus’ approach to inviting Peter, Zacchaeus, and the Samaritan woman to follow him. Notice: These were three different people. He approached them in three different ways.
e. What do you know about the person you might mentor? Fill in as much information as you can. You can complete the list later. Are there other areas it would be good for you to know about if you are to mentor this person as an individual? How will this information affect the way you mentor this person?
Person you might mentor: 你可能要辅导的人是：
Children (age, gender): 孩子（年龄，性别）
Birth family: 出生家庭
Areas of personal strengths: 个人的长处
Areas needing improvement: 需要改进的地方
Marital status: 婚姻状况：
Employer/job title: 顾主/工作职称：
Goals for life: 生活目标：
Spiritual health: 灵命健康状况：
Five Aspects of Mentoring辅导的五个方面：
- One way to think about a well-rounded approach to mentoring another Christian is to consider five key areas of our Christian life.
a. Friendship: living out Christ’s love for us as we love others
b. Evangelism: sharing the message of Christ’s love for us
c. Emotional healing: bringing our emotions in line with the truth of Christ’s love for us.
d. Scripture knowledge: learning the truth of Christ’s love for us
e. Modeling: demonstrating Christ’s love so others see how to live it out
- Aspects of Mentoring You’ve Experienced through Others
a. Think of relationships in your life that have helped you grow in Christ. Describe one way you have experienced the truths mentioned in the following passages.
(1) 1 Thessalonians 2:8, We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well, because you had become so dear to us.帖前2：8
(2) Your experience:你的经历：
(1) Matthew 28:19, Go and make disciples of all nations.太28：19
(2) Your experience:你的经历：
iii. Emotional Healing情绪医治
(1) 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.
(2) Your experience:你的经历：
iv. Scripture Knowledge认识圣经
(1) John 15:10-11, If you obey my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have obeyed my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.约15：10-11。你们若遵守我的命令，就常在我的爱里；正如我遵守了我父的命令，常在他的爱里。这些事我已经对你们说了，是要叫我的喜乐存在你们心里，并叫你们的喜乐可以满足。
(2) Your experience:你的经历
(1) 1 Corinthians 11:1 Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.
(2) Your experience:你的经历：
b. What kinds of things might you do for and with the person you are mentoring to help him develop in these areas?
iii. Emotional healing情绪医治
iv. Scripture knowledge认识圣经
c. Review those five areas of your Christian life.回顾你基督徒生活的那五个方面。
i. In which area are you best equipped to help your friend?
ii. In which area are you least equipped?你在哪方面的装备最欠缺？
iii. How might you make up for that weakness?你怎样弥补这一缺失？
Mentoring is Spirit-Empowered辅导由圣灵推动
a. We hear Paul describe how essential the Spirit’s role is in mentoring when he writes to the Colossians.
i. We proclaim [Christ], admonishing and teaching everyone with all wisdom, so that we may present everyone perfect in Christ. To this end I labor, struggling with all his energy, which so powerfully works in me (1:28-29).
b. But mentoring is not anything we can do in our own power. What do these verses say about the importance of involving the Spirit in the work of mentoring?
i. Philippians 2:13, It is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose.
ii. 1 Corinthians 12:3 No one can say, “Jesus is Lord,” except by the Holy Spirit.
iii. Romans 10:17, Faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word of Christ.
iv. Psalm 119:9-16, How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to your word. I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands. I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you. Praise be to you, O LORD; teach me your decrees. With my lips I recount all the laws that come from your mouth. I rejoice in following your statutes as one rejoices in great riches. I meditate on your precepts and consider your ways. I delight in your decrees; I will not neglect your word.
c. How will a mentor put this Scriptural principal into practice?
- Empowered by Prayer由祷告推动。
a. Paul sincerely wanted the Christians at Philippi to grow in their relationship with Jesus and to become mentors of still others. Notice his prayer for them.
i. God can testify how I long for all of you with the affection of Christ Jesus. And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ – to the glory and praise of God (Philippians 1:8-11).
(1) What is at the heart of Paul’s prayer?保罗祷告的中心是什么？
(2) What two things does he want to happen as the result of his prayer?
(3) If we follow Paul’s example, what will our prayer life be like for the believers we mentor?
(a) What will we pray for? 我们将为哪些事情祷告？
(b) How will we structure our mentoring so we become tools in gaining our desired answer to our prayer?
- Empowered by Exemplifying Christian Leadership通过展现基督徒领袖的榜样推动。
a. Paul urged Timothy to train the next generation of Christians leaders just as Timothy was trained by Paul.
i. The things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable men who will also be qualified to teach others (2 Timothy 2:2).
ii. The training of future generations of Christian leaders is now our responsibility.
b. No one can teach what he hasn’t learned for himself. No doubt that’s why God is insistent that people who lead in his kingdom must practice their faith. Consider God’s character description of a Christian leader in 1 Timothy 3:2-7. Notice the things God says are essential for a Christian leader to have mastered.
i. Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?) He must not be a recent convert, or he may become conceited and fall under the same judgment as the devil. He must also have a good reputation with outsiders, so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devil’s trap.
ii. What would you consider to be the five most important characteristics in this list? Explain your choices.
c. God has not given us this character description of a leader primarily to eliminate anyone from leadership, but to spur us on to authentic Christian leadership. That’s why it is not appropriate for us to look at the type of leader God wants and reason, “I’m not like that. God doesn’t want me to lead.” Rather God’s description urges us on to become an exemplary Christian so we can lead and in that way better honor him for his grace.
i. Where do you especially need to improve in your walk with the Savior?
ii. Is there someone who might mentor you in that area?
iii. When will you ask for his help?你将在什么时候向他提出帮助的请求？
Mentoring Requires Trust in God’s Timetable辅导需要信靠神的时间表
- The Spirit is the one who brings about spiritual growth through the means of grace. Put in your own words how Paul explains to the Corinthians that no mentor can take credit for another Christians’ walk with the Lord.
a. So neither he who plants nor he who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow. The man who plants and the man who waters have one purpose, and each will be rewarded according to his own labor. For we are God’s fellow workers; you are God’s field, God’s building (1 Corinthians 3:7-9).
b. This passage also talks about being willing to adapt to God’s timetable for Christian growth as each Christian responds to God’s grace in his own unique way. What did you learn here about trusting God’s timetable?
c. How might the following issues cause a mentor to become frustrated with God’s timetable for another believer’s growth?
i. Fear that he (the mentor) is not doing an adequate job.
ii. Frustration that he has wasted his time and energy.
iii. Desire to make the person he is mentoring like him.期望他辅导的人喜欢他。
iv. Feeling it is up to him to make the person he is mentoring change.
v. Pride he knows how the mentoring process should work in this person’s life.
vi. Feeling he lacks whatever it takes to mentor another.
vii. Any other issue you might want to add:你想补充的任何可能有的问题。
d. Below is a list of ways a mentor may deal with roadblocks to mentoring. Evaluate their value.
i. With repentance.悔改。
ii. With continued and increased use of the means of grace.
iii. By giving up on mentoring.放弃辅导。
iv. By asking another Christian to help him work through these issues.
v. By asking God for help with these issues.祈求神的帮助解决这些问题。
vi. By asking the Lord to change his heart.求神改变他的心。
vii. By choosing to act on God’s promises, not his own feelings.
- The Savior did not wait for Peter, Zacchaeus, the Samaritan woman, or anyone else to come to him. He took the initiative and invited them to follow.
a. Whom has the Lord put in your life that you might mentor?
b. When and where will you talk to this person about getting together with you?
c. What will you say?你会怎么说？
d. Obviously, you’ll work out mentoring goals with the person who agrees to be taught by you. But, for right now, what goals might you have for your friend? Remember the five aspects of mentoring.
i. Friendship: living out Christ’s love for us as we love others
ii. Evangelism: sharing the message of Christ’s love for us
iii. Emotional healing: bringing our emotions in line with the truth of Christ’s love for us.
iv. Scripture knowledge: learning the truth of Christ’s love for us
v. Modeling: demonstrating Christ’s love so others see how to live it out
e. Are there other Christians who will become a support group for you?
f. What will you pray for in the meantime?你同时会为那些事情祷告？
最后更新于 2012年9月04日 星期二 08:08
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